…AND THE QUIET ONE
EXPLODES
“
You must be very stupid for insulting me just because I told you to stop your
noise” said Tobi.
“Did
you just call me stupid? You have shown that indeed you lack home training”
retorted Sade.
Before
anyone could say ‘Jack Robinson’, a sudden crash of glass against the wall sent
the spectators scampering for safety. The sound of glass against the wall
seemed to say, “to your tent oh Israel”. Few minutes after, students of the
hall found out that the piece of shattered glass was actually meant for Sade’s
head, but as fate would have it, she was able to dodge it just in time. The
question on everybody’s mind was, “what could have made Tobi, a normally quiet
and gentle lady, to get so angry to the extent of throwing a piece of glass
towards the direction of her roommate, Sade?”
The simple answer to that question is that Tobi has a measure of Intermittent Explosive Disorder within
her.
We tend to take sudden
angry bursts as a normal phenomenon - a part of the human mindset. But then,
there are people who react to things in different ways. Some of us 'keep their
cool', while some of us react violently. This difference itself indicates that
there is some kind of underlying aberration in the people who react much more
in proportion to the cause. This is what is medically termed as Intermittent Explosive Disorder.
Intermittent Explosive
Disorder is one of those ailments whose names are not commonly known, but it
is present probably in every one of us in some measure or the other. People who
suffer from this condition are quite normal most of the time, but there are
unpredictable episodes when they might have a great display of anger. In this sudden
outburst, they might do things they normally would not even think of doing -
they might break things they can lay their hands on, they might set fire to
things, they might hurt or try to hurt someone else or they might even try to
injure themselves. People who suffer from IED
are prone to sudden fits of anger and violent outbursts. The most alarming part
of IED is the fact that it might
exist within a person without him or her even knowing about it.
The cause of IED
can sometimes be traced to the childhood of a person. Children who have been
raised in families where they always squabble and fight, tend to demonstrate
their anger violently while growing up. Families that suffer abject poverty may
have children that grow up with IED,
and this could be an indication of the frustration borne out of children's
habit to compare themselves with other kids. But then, this cannot be taken as
the universal truth at all. There are kids from violent families that grow up
to be fine gentlemen and ladies without any shred of IED
in them, and there are kids from peaceful families who might get as angry as a
bull teased by the matador at the smallest of things.
Though the point of
childhood ingraining is much existent, there could be several other reasons
too. Some people have a genetic propensity to get wild. This explains the
excessive anger in some kids when both parents are quite genial. They might
have picked up the trait from a violent uncle or aunt or some other relative. As
these people grow up, they might enter into happier situations and overcome
their tendency to be unnecessarily violent, or their conditions might keep on
piling up inside like lava in a dormant volcano.
Finally, there are
ways by which this condition can be
controlled so that it will not spill out of hand. Certain therapies ,
exercising in the peaceful mornings, reading light books with moral values,
attending places of worship are solutions you can use. The best solution is of
course to lead a more fruitful life, be cheerful always and build up love for
the people around you. When you love the people with you, you stand a great
chance of controlling these destructive surges of emotion. With the above
mentioned methods, you will be able to curtail your anger and live a more
blissful life.
Have a great and anger free week!
Balogun
Yvonne
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